The Reason For Your Season
You’ll see many blog posts around this time of year talking about the true meaning of Christmas or whatever holiday you happen to be celebrating. While I thoroughly enjoy those types of holiday-themed posts, this is not one of them.
This blog post is more about you. The reason for your season. Whatever phase of life you happen to be in.
Whether you’re just starting, recently graduated, making a career change, or settling into your groove.
Perhaps you have built a solid resume of specific experiences or have bounced around like a Jack or Jane of all trades.
Or if you’re embracing a new phase in life, ready for retirement — whatever that specifically means for you. That may mean you want to slow things down, or it could also mean you’d like to be more active, traveling the country or even the world.
And it could mean nothing is changing work-wise. Just that you will now spend time doing the type of work that makes you smile.
Whatever season of life you are in at the moment –
What motivates you? What makes you tick?
It’s finding out your “why” —
What’s Your “Why”?
If you’ve landed on this blog post, it’s probably fair to say that’s for one of two reasons:
1) You are looking to make some extra money on the side (a.k.a. Side Jams), or
2) You are trying to get out of Debt.
Or maybe it’s the third option — you and I happen to be friends or family (Hi there!)
In any case, I thank you for visiting, no matter how you ended up here.
(And I also thank you for putting up with the wonky behavior of my recent email notifications!)
But also — if you are looking to either make more money, spend less money, or both — something has brought you here to initiate a change.
Change is good! Because how utterly dull would life be if things were always the same? After all, variety is the spice of life because you can do the same things over and over and wind up with the same results.
Or you can question the path you’ve followed and decide if you’re heading where you genuinely want to go.
And then maybe you choose to veer off that course a bit, to start moving in a different direction, one that will yield greater results, turn things around, or make you a happier person.
But you won’t be able to make that change (or at least long term) unless you first identify your “Why”.
Beyond just “I want to save money” or “I want to spend less”.
Why? Here are some examples:
- Because I want to stress less about my future
- I’d like to save up to buy a fishing boat
- I’d love to be an artist or a ballroom dance champion or a professional golfer
- Because I’d like to give back to everyone who’s helped me get to where I am today
- I want to travel the country, without a care in the world
- I’d like to audition for “Survivor” so I can meet Jeff Probst
- I don’t want my kids to have to take care of me when I can no longer do that myself
- Or I’d love to start a llama farm or a traveling circus or a cupcake delivery service
There’s something deep, deep inside that you are pining for.
You just have to find it.
Oh yeah — and then act on it.
Related Post: Keeping the Faith to Follow Your Dreams
My Favorite Socks
Well, I have several pairs of favorite socks. I’m a sock person, and I like when they have personalities.
I even have a pair of socks that bear the faces of my two dogs.
But I adore socks that have motivational or quirky sayings on them.
Here’s an example (with one word blurred out, for any easily-offended or young, impressionable readers out there.)
I wear these socks when I know my day will be full of challenges, whether it’s back-to-back meetings, a presentation that’s a tad out of my comfort zone, or just when I’m in a cr*ppy mood.
I also have a pair of socks that say “B*tches Get Stuff Done”. I wear them when I want to feel incredibly motivated.
Sometimes you need that extra boost to keep you moving up the path to greatness. And yes, a lot of the time, you will be pushing yourself forward, battling up that hill.
Because achieving your dreams won’t always be easy. Sure, there can be good luck involved. But for the most part, you’ll need to work for it.
So what would your lucky socks say?
Or maybe for you, it’s a lucky hat, or t-shirt, or favorite high-tops, or lipstick.
Whatever it is that keeps you motivated — along with your ultimate “Why”. These are the things that will keep you moving forward.
Related Post: Find Your Voice
The Mid-Life Transformation
Have you ever heard the phrase “Mid-Life Crisis”? A time in your adult life when you might question the impact you’ve had on the world around you?
It’s mainly used in the movies, exaggerating how a middle-aged guy (for the most part) reacts to getting older. And it typically entails sports cars, flashy clothing, and all-night partying.
And I get it — you reach an age when you’re not sure how much time you have left and are not sure how you got to be, well, the age you currently are.
While I’m sure some of this concept may have originated from something, in reality, I’d like to offer a slight variation.
Instead of “Crisis”, how about we call it a “Transformation”?
Because, let’s face it — once you reach mid-life, you’ve accumulated some serious education, experiences, and street cred. It doesn’t need to be a crisis. Yeah, you’re a different person than you were in your younger days.
But that doesn’t have to be a bad thing. I mean, when you’re a kid, your main goal is to have fun. When you’re a teenager, your purpose is to question the norm and be a bit rebellious (and still have fun).
Once you are in your 20’s, you’re starting to branch out individually but are still just beginning to learn how to be an adult.
And when you reach your 30’s, you’re a full-fledged “grown-up”, but are still young enough to reach backwards and recall the times of your youth.
But once you’re in your 40’s — well, I won’t say it starts going downhill because it most certainly does not. What does happen is you begin to understand how much younger you are not getting.
And you realize you now have the opportunity to take all you’ve painstakingly learned through the years and make everything that much better.
You have the entire second half of life — as an adult, with experience — to indeed hit the ball out of the park.
This realization causes frenzied desperation to hang onto their youth to some people, whether by getting Botox injections, body lifts, hair implants (or other implants), flashy cars, or expensive clothing.
To others, it starts a big push to achieve something they thought they’d have way more time to accomplish. They are getting married, having children, launching a meaningful project, getting back on track with far-off friends or loved ones.
This time has been about acknowledging where my happiness lies and what activities truly bring me joy.
These things don’t require a ton of money but require a fair amount of time and dedication. Time and commitment that currently are assigned to other not-as-fun things.
So how do you choose to spend your time? And how do you decide to spend your money?
Those two questions are so closely related, in case you haven’t noticed.
Related Post: What’s a Side Jam?
Your Reason, Your Season
And maybe this is something that resonates with you as well. Do you want to continue with the usual, whether it’s pencil-pushing, order taking, or cubicle dwelling? Or would you rather work for yourself, making decisions that align with your hopes and dreams?
Is there something beyond the cookie-cutter concept of business in the private sector, lining the pockets of corporate America?
Can you visualize working for an actual purpose, impacting others to make a real difference, making your own choices and feeling genuinely good about them?
So maybe this is a story about the holidays and starting the New Year off with a bang.
Or at least a well-thought-out plan of action, running parallel to the daily grind.
Until the scales start to tip slightly into the other direction, and a ray of light emerges, growing into the possibility of full-time entrepreneurship.
Because these are the days of challenging the norm, why not give it a go, and see where this season takes you?
There’s no actual reason not to.
This is Your Time. This is Your Season.
Carpe Diem, my friends.