Starting a blog is a scary thing. You’re putting yourself out there for the whole world to see. All eyes are on you. Will anyone read it? Will anyone take you seriously? And if they do take you seriously, will they hate everything you’ve written?
There are so many great bloggers out there; how can you possibly compete with their awesomeness? What if one of them reads your stuff and calls you a fraud — or what if no one reads your stuff?
You open yourself up to such intense criticism; who knows if you will ever recover—just kidding. That’s not the way it is. That’s just what your mind tells you, at first.
In all reality, you will stress out way more than is necessary, worrying about how people will react to what you’ve written. In the beginning, unless you send your posts directly to friends and family members who will share their fully-biased support, it’s highly unlikely that you will gain random, out-of-the-blue readership.
In my case, I honestly don’t know what’s worse — having friends & family pick apart all of my posts, wondering if I’m referring to them, asking why I’m not writing more about them specifically, or not having an audience at all. Like, literally hearing crickets.
Having a Captive Audience
So if you’re starting a blog, why wouldn’t you want your friends and family to be the very first to experience your well-thought-out nuggets of wisdom? Wouldn’t they be super supportive, sending the link to all of their friends and coworkers, hence building up traffic for your newly published site?
Who wouldn’t want free publicity? It could be the socially awkward introvert in me, but I see no tangible benefit in sharing this new endeavor with the people in my life right now.
I will share with you (my dear anonymous-if-not-imaginary reader) the four categories of responses I’m reasonably certain I would receive:
- The sympathetic cheerleaders
- Awwwwwwww, you’re starting a blog? That’s so sweet. What a cute little blog it will be. Starting a blog — what a neat little hobby!
- The skeptics
- A personal finance blog about paying off debt written by you? Well, isn’t that a bit hypocritical? Should you be giving financial advice to anyone?
- The paranoid
- You are starting a blog? Am I in it? Are you using real names? What are you saying about me on there???
Wearing the Cloak of Invisibility
So you see, sharing my musings with a built-in “support” group wouldn’t be doing me any favors. This is why I am not sharing my blog with people I know. (At least not yet, anyway)
And in case you haven’t figured this out yet, Diana Hall is the author of my own creation. (That was the pseudonym I was using when I first started my blog. For more details about my reveal, see the post below!) For the reasons above, I’m not comfortable with broadcasting my true identity on my blog.
But the good news is that everything on this blog, and every bit of my content, is 100% real. Everything comes from the heart, mostly from experience, and always in the hope that someone out there in the inter-web might benefit from something I’ve written.
Do you or anyone you know of a blog using a pen name? Or do you think it’s inauthentic to do this? Where do you find your blogging support and/or encouragement? Hit me up with some comments — it would be much appreciated!!
*Note: I will not even pretend to provide financial advice to anyone who reads this blog. So please don’t misconstrue that I am doing so. Go see an expert. I’m not one of those.