How I Learned to Blog Anonymously, and Why I Stopped

Originally Published: August 4, 2018

It’s been one year since I started this journey of blogging anonymously.

When I researched and purchased my domain name, I set up a pretty basic and free WordPress theme. Then, I Signed up for a few free online courses and dove headfirst into the glamorous world of beginner blogging.

Along the way, I’ve learned a few things. Things like:

Your website doesn’t need to be that fancy since most people will be reading your blog over mobile anyway.

Pinterest is a quick way to get traffic, but it isn’t the end-all-be-all of a blogging strategy. And it shouldn’t be your only means of gaining traffic.

Also, a lot of people will try to sell you stuff. The magic elixir to blogging success. The way to increase blog traffic by 5000%. The secret sauce to making an affiliate sale within 5 hours so you can haul in $80,000 of profits in your first 30 days. Ha.

Many of them are good at it because I’ve fallen for so many of these sales pitches during the last 12 months. Also, I happen to be an extremely optimistic and trusting person, giving most people the benefit of the doubt. So I’m sure that played into the equation as well.

And, oh yeah, the most crucial thing I’ve learned as an anonymous blogger — Blogging is HARD work. There is A LOT to learn. And it can be overwhelming.

So why would anyone want to begin blogging in the first place?

And why in the world would you even think about blogging anonymously?

Why Would You Choose to Blog Anonymously?

As many of you know, I am an introvert. Like, to the extreme.

We’re talking INFJ on the Myers-Briggs scale. I’m also highly sensitive, and, to top it all off, I have social anxiety.

So clearly, I am very often the life of the party. 

I’m kidding. I probably won’t even go to the party in the first place and will stay home in bed reading. But that’s just me. I don’t like loud and crazy. I don’t need constant social interaction, and I revel in my downtime.

I require it. If there’s too much back-to-back activity going on in my life, my mental and emotional faculties begin to shut down. It’s like my mind requires a reboot to feel refreshed and in control again.

So what does that have to do with being an anonymous blogger? Essentially, everything. It’s the reason why I chose to start writing an anonymous blog in the first place.

My mind was telling me I needed to express myself. I required a creative outlet to document my personal finance journey. A blog about debt, saving money and hustling for cash. Documenting my debt payoff journey requires a certain amount of accountability.

But how do you hold yourself accountable when you’ve backed yourself into a financial corner? Debt, like a big lump of regret sitting in the pit of your stomach.

Or a walk of shame, heading home the next morning in your best party dress. But even worse, because you’d be taking that walk. Every. Single. Day.

You are putting yourself out there — with all of the shame, regret, and embarrassment that goes along with it.

(Mental note: Why is there no similar metaphor of a dude walking home wearing a wrinkled tux? Because he’d get high fives and fist bumps? But I digress)

I decided to keep this blog on the down-low to save me from undesired judgment and humiliation. And if things went well, I could eventually come clean with family and friends after the fact. Or if things didn’t go so well, I could ditch the blog, and no one would be the wiser.

And so, an online persona named Diana Hall was created to share my financial musings with the world. Anonymously. From behind the screen of a laptop and the facade of a pen name. (Which was chosen to pay homage to the utterly fabulous and iconic soap opera diva, Deidre Hall.)

And this fictional being started to develop an online presence. So I created a Twitter account, a Facebook page, started an Instagram account that I haven’t even posted once to and started going nutty pinning on Pinterest.

I probably could’ve started writing an anonymous blog without creating the online persona. I could’ve avoided using a name had it not been for Facebook. Those darn algorithms try to recommend friends as “people you might know”.

I was so afraid to link my financial blog page to my existing personal account (for my dogs) and then have someone I know to click on that page.

So that’s when I came up with the idea to use a different name on Facebook. And the rest is history.

Who Was Diana Hall?

Someone braver than I was at the time. She jumped into blogging feet first. Googled tutorials on how to set up WordPress. Then, she paid someone on Fiverr to create a cute little jam logo.

She dabbled with widgets and plugins until she became so frustrated she *almost* threw her laptop out the window. And she persisted.

But honestly, setting up an anonymous blog was the easy part.

The more significant challenge would be making connections, getting subscribers, and figuring out what to do with them once you have them. Not forgetting they were there.

And just as important: Finding a group of like-minded bloggers to bounce ideas off of. Creating partnerships to help each other out and not succumb to “blogger impostor syndrome”.

This is the part all of those “how to start a blog” posts don’t tell you about. You can have all of the steps and technicality figured out, but you still need to use your people skills to breathe life into a project.

As an introvert, if you think you can start typing away and immediately make money as an anonymous blogger, you’ll need to think again.

Because some of those sales pitches make it sound so easy and neglect to tell you it will still require some social finessing and a butt-load of hard work.

Blogging anonymously and hiding behind a computer can only last for so long before you realize you need a support group. And some backup. And maybe a little bit of grace and a lot of prayers.

Learning How to Blog

Blogging anonymously or not, here are some things those “how-to” articles don’t tell you, and maybe they should —

• There’s way more to learn than you could ever imagine.
• Most really successful bloggers have done this for a while and have invested more time than if you were just punching the clock at a regular 9 to 5. They’re working before hours, after hours, on vacation, and any time in between. But that’s mainly because they genuinely love it and couldn’t imagine doing otherwise.
• You’ll get out of it what you put into it. Period.
• If you’re workin’ it part-time, you’ll need to take advantage of any pockets of free time that you do have. And if you take breaks (which is perfectly fine and healthy to do so), then realize this is the compromise you are making.

If you would rather watch The Duke of Hastings while binge watching Bridgerton on Netflix, then that is the choice you make. (And I regret nothing!!)

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Blogging will patiently wait for you but know you will be further behind in your own personal blogging journey.

• There are a lot of helpful and FREE resources out there. 
• You can find a free online tutorial for pretty much everything nowadays. Want to know how to make your external affiliate links nofollow? Head over to Google. Need a visual on how to put a border around your blog images? There’s a YouTube video for that.

Many experts are more than willing to share their blogging knowledge with the masses purely to be helpful.

• There are also a ton of paid resources out there. Many are helpful, some are redundant — and a good number are touting virtually unattainable results. 
• Trust your intuition. Don’t buy into it if a blogging course seems too good to be true. That expensive course that everyone’s talking about? They’re promoting it because it has a pretty sweet affiliate program. Sure, it pulls a bunch of useful information into a single location. But it’s also not the holy grail of blogging.

Do You Know What Is the Holy Grail of Blogging?

Patience, trial and error, learning by doing, making mistakes, being resilient and pushing forward. I was writing as an anonymous blogger for practically an entire year, and it amazes me to look back at where I started.

Sure, it’s been a bit of a stop-and-go process. There have been more than a few hiccups and speed bumps in the road, and it hasn’t all been smooth sailing. Why? [spoiler alert]

Because I am an imperfect person.

I wasn’t quite as dedicated as I could’ve been. I can’t even tell you how many times I’d set my alarm for 5:30 a.m. so I could wake up bright and early to get some blogging done. And then, once morning rolled around, would continue to hit snooze until 7:45.

Or how about the weekend I spent catching up on Big Brother instead of digging into the SEO course I paid money for.

And there were also several nights I was so fudgin’ cranky from my regular workday that I didn’t want to put my blogging hat on for the remainder of the evening. I just needed a breather—a break.

At some points, did I want to give up? Sure, I thought about it.

But ultimately, the desire would take hold again. And with a firm re-grip, I’d start making my way down the blogging path once again.

So why change things up now — Why not just keep writing my blog anonymously? 

Why Would You Stop Writing an Anonymous Blog?

So what changed — Why even bother revealing my true identity when I could continue along my merry way with other anonymous bloggers?

What made me want to stop hiding and “come clean”?

There were two things –

1 – I started reevaluating my level of confidence and sense of self-worth.

I always knew I was a quiet and shy person. But I also thought I was pretty confident, moderately intelligent, and more of an independent person. Nothing crazy, just your average individual.

Then as I started blogging and became more comfortable with the technical ins and outs, I realized my confidence was growing, which made me take a long, hard look at where my starting point had been.

There’s been this subliminal inner monologue set on auto-play in my mind. And it wasn’t until I started to gain confidence that I could press the pause button on that tape. (Yes, the internal audio system is a cassette player — I grew up in the 80’s, don’t forget!) 

And this inner monologue had the following phrases set on perpetual repeat mode: “you suck”, “why even bother”, “no one will read your blog”, “who are you kidding”. And also a few other phrases that were even worse but would serve absolutely no purpose in documenting here.

Anyway, the moment I realized how utterly ridiculous those sayings were, this inner growth started to happen.

• • I became more open in the online blogging groups I belonged to.
  • I began contributing more in chatrooms and forums.
  • I started leaving genuine thoughts and ideas on financial blogs that I followed.
  • I introduced myself to a group of exceptional online individuals I had been too intimidated to say a word to in the prior six months.
  • I applied for a scholarship to attend a conference I knew could kickstart my presence in the world of personal finance blogging.

And no, I didn’t win — but I put myself out there, which is the most crucial piece.

You Will Not Always Win. You Won’t Always Be Recognized, or Lauded, or Praised.

But just the fact that you are trying — speaks absolute volumes.

Putting yourself out there starts becoming a habit — instead of keeping yourself hidden or remaining on the sidelines.

And that was reason number one. Gaining confidence — being my authentic self — was worth so much more than the risk of being discovered by people I knew “in real life”.

Diana Might Be the One Who Started This Journey, but Robin Is the One Who Is Sure as Heck Gonna Finish It.

2 – The second reason I stopped blogging anonymously was closely related to an outcome of the first reason. I’ve decided to attend this conference (not on a free ride, but at a pretty cool discounted rate) because I want to make some connections.

I want to meet some people who have had a positive impact on my financial blogging journey, learn from them, to ask some questions. And to potentially start a future working relationship. (No pitch here — since I have absolutely nothing to sell. Just trying to expand my education.)

So in preparation for this excursion, I started thinking about how my introduction might go.

Networking may be scary but necessary. How would I introduce myself — as “Diana Hall”? That just seemed so fake and so wrong. I mean, it was fake — just by definition.

I’ve always been upfront about being an anonymous blogger, and Diana Hall was just a pen name. But if I met some of these financial bloggers face to face and possibly developed a sort of friendship, did it seem weird that I’d be giving them my fake name?

Or should I tell them my real name and then ask them not to use it online or in reference to my blog? And how in the world could I keep up with this charade for four whole days?

Check into the hotel as Robin, check into the conference hall as Diana. Sign dinner bill as Robin, talk to bloggers at a networking event as Diana.

So many strange yet valid questions. But I ultimately decided that part of this personal journey — this metamorphosis — would require becoming more comfortable with being my true self.

How Do Anonymous Bloggers Transition To True Identity?

So there you go — that’s my “why”. After one year of blogging anonymously, I decided to ditch the pen name and put myself out there for the world to see.

And while I haven’t yet shown my blog to anyone else in my “real” life (other than the two people who knew about it already), I know that day will be coming very soon.

But you know what? I’ll handle it and take it one step at a time.

If you are thinking of writing anonymously for a blog, or are already blogging anonymously and are contemplating a reveal — here are some of the things I’ve recently had to deal with as part of that process:

• Updating all of my logins on accounts that had me listed as Diana
• Locating every “author name” reference on my blog and changing it to Robin
• Revising my email sequence template and “send from” field, to not confuse any future subscriber signups
• Creating an actual email address to correspond with my real name (instead of diana[at]savoteur[dot]com)
• Updating social media and online forum accounts where I had created user names as Diana
• Any registrations (like to a conference) where I originally listed my pen name next to my blog name
• Any niche blogging directories that I joined over this timeframe

Honestly, I’m sure other areas will pop up over the next few months. And I’ll address them as they’re encountered. The worst that could happen is someone might be a little confused about the name change. But overall, my blog is the same.

And hey, it makes for a great story, right?!

If you are on the fence about whether or not you should start a blog anonymously, be aware of some of these details. Knowing them ahead of time may allow you to avoid some future backtracking or grief.

Do I Regret Blogging Anonymously?

So the question is — do I regret having been an anonymous blogger for the past year? If I could hit rewind and do this year over again, would I do anything differently?

Nope. I firmly believe everything happens for a reason. This was meant to be my journey. I was destined to start my blog under an anonymous name until I felt comfortable revealing myself at the proper time. (And believe it or not, there is video footage of exactly when that happened)

The universe knew I needed to take this journey, build up my confidence, learn everything about myself, and eventually come to this epiphany on my schedule.

And I was meant to meet all of these fantastic people along the way.

A friend who sent daily reminders that a positive mindset is everything, and you should surround yourself with good vibes only.

A pair of lovely ladies, who were both welcoming and supportive of a blogging newbie who needed a little push in the right direction to develop her confidence.

A mentor who told me I was exactly where I needed to be, shouldn’t compare my journey to anyone else’s, and could absolutely be a Badass.

A teacher who showed me never to be afraid to follow wherever the road takes you, to walk right up to the VIP and ask a tough question, and not to be afraid to step out of my comfort zone.

So What Happens Now?

I think the most straightforward and obvious answer to that question is to keep going. Keep moving forward, building relationships, making connections, and trying my darnedest not to lose heart if things don’t go so well.

Because there will be ups and downs, but I’ve got to believe everything is going to turn out the way it’s supposed to. And I’m already pretty amazed at what’s happened up to this point.

Do IT if you’re thinking about starting a blog anonymously or in your full-named glory! Sure, there’s a lot to learn — but you’ll also learn so much more about yourself.

And that by itself is so worth it.

And, For Those About to Blog — Anonymous or Not — I Salute You!